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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have friends who really and truly practice gratitude every day. Their lives are sunny because, well, they are sunny. It’s not that they don’t have hard times, it that they choose to focus on the good. They aren’t trying to be a brand, they really want to share and spread the good. Sure, their lives aren’t perfect, but I don’t need to see that. I have enough imperfect in my life. I check them out when I need a laugh or pick me up.

I don’t get the idea that “real life” has to be miserable, or sharing misery. Misery passes if you let it go.

I don’t get the idea of blowing out someone else’s candle to make yours look like it’s burning brighter, either [/quote]

Part of teaching kids good character is being optimistic and grateful sure, but it's also being humble. You share your good news absolutely, but if you are crossing over in bragging DAILY, it's not being optimistic. It is being obnoxious. It's like humblebragging on social media and then posting #blessed. That is not showing gratitude if you do it all the time. It's trying to hide your bragging. Do you see the difference? OP is saying this is happening every single day. Our kids should not need a constant stream of praise to function. Of course we want them to be optimistic and grateful. That doesn't mean they don't need read the room. [/quote]

Why is sharing good news exclusively considered “bragging”?

We’ve created this weird world of social media. If you say something happy, you’re bragging. If you say something negative, you’re attention seeking. Etc.

The only person who needs to examine their reaction is the reader, for their reaction. I have friends who yes, are bragging, I have others who are showing gratitude. I have some seeking help, and some who are seeking attention. [/quote]

Have you read the thread? There is nothing wrong with sharing good news and getting positive feedback. There is a point where you cross a line into bragging. It's the difference between posting the occasional vacation photo or child winning award and posting something daily where you are thirsty for praise. Honestly though, you do you. If you think it's fine do it. If your friends think it's awesome great. If you find people stop responding though....you may want to read the room and start listening more and bragging less.[/quote]

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