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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP again. SIL's DH is a narcissistic alcoholic who doesn't want to check himself in and she has been his enabler for years. She talks a lot about ending the marriage but is codependent and he manipulates her a lot. It's not like she didn't know who she was marrying. The affidavits would carry more weight from her sister and her sister's husband as they have dealt directly with SIL and DH's brother and know their problems first-hand (plus, the sister's husband is actual local law enforcement). My family of origin would know better than to involve me or DH in any problems. I don't know why people here get the impression that SIL's DH is going to die if his brother doesn't show up. That's NOT the case. He's probably just going to continue drinking. This isn't cancer or a true medical emergency. And SIL telling us that DH needs to spend time and money to get his brother sober is ridiculous on her part. [/quote]

Wow. You have a lot to learn about alcoholism. It's absolutely deadly. And nothing here changes anything that anyone in this thread said. [/quote]

Are you nuts? No one is forcing the guy to drink. What happened to personal responsibility?[/quote]

PP here.  You are an ignoramus.  Even if brother was able to come how just go cold turkey from alcohol, he could DIE.  Most long term alcoholics have a physical dependence that can result in death without a medically supervised detox, which he won’t do.  It’s not simply a matter of “personal responsibility”[/quote]

Yes, it is. My alcoholic brother had to have part of his eosophagus (sic) removed due to his drinking and while he was sober for 3 mths, he went back to drinking due to his (in his words), “my wife is fat and lazy and doesn’t clean, the kids won’t let me sleep, my wife complains about me to her family, I hate my job”. So instead of cleaning their house and figuring out things like a normal person, he just passes blame on his wife and coworkers. I agree his wife is a slob but drinking away ones liver is not how anyone should deal with problems. I’ve already told him and his wife, don’t come to me for a liver![/quote]

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