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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]True story with a friend of mine.

Mom died.

Dad remarried than died of a heart attack within the year; his will had not been updated.

New wife got EVERYTHING, including all the jewelry that belonged to my friend’s mother.

It’s worth a what-if conversation with your dad.[/quote]

Similar thing happened in my extended family. New wife got everything, and then left it all to her own kids (Dad and new wife were in their 60s, both already had grown children, didn’t have any more together).  So the Dad’s daughters (my relatives) got to watch their step-siblings inherit their own mother’s wedding band, set of silver that had been in their mom’s family for a few generations, some quilts from their great-grandmother, and other family heirlooms that meant nothing to the step-sibs beyond what they could sell it for.  A box of photo albums from their mom’s childhood went into the trash because the step-sibs didn’t know the people in the pictures.  It was devastating to watch.

OP, I get respecting your dad’s wishes. My own dad is remarried, and I fully support his right to make those decisions. But I would encourage you to think about whether there’s any sentimental items from your mom that you would like to have someday. If so, maybe just work that into the conversation one day. “I’ve always loved these earrings of hers, I remember she wore them to my wedding. When you are ready to pass these along, would you mind if I keep them?”  That might lead to a bigger conversation about how they are designating items for the various kids, or not. [/quote]

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