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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm staying together for the kids, but also for me.

The reality is, I want to see the kids every day, I want to see them every holiday, put them to bed at night and cuddle with them in the morning. Missing those moments is not something I'd choose to do. I don't want a "stepmother" I don't know raising my kids for part of the time (a total possibility if you divorce). I also like what a combined income affords us and consider that to be part of making my life content and comfortable.

Our kids see us all enjoying times together. We still laugh at each others jokes when they're funny, and enjoy a hug, cuddle or more when the mood strikes. We're friends and as long as there is peace, it is enough.

I don't know what will happen when the kids leave, but I'll cross that bridge when I get there.

Now, if we were mortal enemies shouting at each other every day that would be a different story, and of course not good for the kids to see. But the idea that that a marriage has to be all or nothing just isn't true. [/quote]

Smart person. Absolutely, if you both have common goals and get along reasonably well it's never going to be better in a 2nd marriage. What a lot of people aren't able to see is it will also go down to the grand kids. I'd rather have my family under one roof, or go to one house for the holidays. I can't tell you how many people I know in second marriages that rarely see the grand kids. Too many exes involved, new unwanted steps, or half children.  For the few cases I've seen work out, the vast majority does not.

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It can be done.  My ex and I make sure to be flexible but also available during the whole year, and for holidays.  We attend all big grandkid functions together.  It’s what mature people do.[/quote]

+1. I agree. That is what mature people do.[/quote]

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