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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Doesn’t seem like an unhealthy dynamic.[/quote]

I agree.  Frankly to me it is crazy that people expect that when a 20 year relationship ends, you have to be angry and never talk again.  People can remain friends and there's nothing wrong with that - in fact it shows maturity.  People who get worked up about this seem really emotionally immature. [/quote]

Friendship and being respectful is one thing.  Sharing your inner monologue multiple times a day is another.  This isn’t wishing an ex happy birthday once a year, or keeping in touch about major life changes.  This is daily communication, of the sort that people typically share with their partner, not their ex.  Few women would tolerate that.  Op is hardly alone in that feeling. [/quote]

Except OP is tolerating it.

Honestly, it doesn't matter if it's normal or not, healthy or not, a threat or not.  The fact is, the boyfriend has made it clear that he has no intention of changing the frequency and type of contact he has with his ex.  They may or may not be genuine friends, one or both of them may or may not be over the relationship, whatever.  It doesn't matter who's right and who's wrong in this situation.  Even if OP is right, he's not going to change.  So the only thing that matters is whether or not she's going to break up with him over it, or not.  And if she doesn't, she needs to LET IT GO.  She can stay with him and have things remain as they are and make her peace with that, or she can break up.  Those are her choices.  [/quote]

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