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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Regret is the wrong word but yes in a way. Our older two are 8 and 6. Things had just gotten fun. Now we need to divide and conquer. Things like skiing as a whole family will need to wait years. If given a magical time machine I probably would have stuck at two even though our third is gorgeous and sweet. It’s not about her being great or not great it’s about the whole family dynamic having shifted in a way I’m not crazy about. Honest answer here. [/quote]

That definitely sounds like less fun, but you and the other poster who "regrets" her child just make me think - you really value restaurants, skiing, and small SUV's over having a third child? Really? Those are your priorities in life?[/quote]

Responses like this are so unfair. Are you suggesting that more kids always equals more fun? Even if it means giving up the family activities you love during the peak years of travel as a family? I'm not suggesting every family should make the same calculations, but the reasons listed above are akin to those that are tipping me and DH more towards "let's just stick with 2 and enjoy all the fun things we're able to do as a family now".[/quote]

My mom was from one of those giant religious families and they couldn't afford stuff like shampoo and my mom used every pencil at school until it was a nub.  My mom hated it.  It doesn't mean my mom thought shampoo or pencils were more important than family. Financial security and cushion and the ability to afford things for your kids matters.[/quote]

PP "That definitely sounds..." I didn't say more kids sounded more fun. The vacations definitely sound more fun, but is that really what you value? A few extra years of restaurants and vacations, vs. a lifetime of a 3rd kid? A smaller car? Like, you're gonna be on your deathbed saying "I'm sure glad I got to keep my small SUV vs. having another child." My in laws had 3 kids, and now they have all the time in the world to go on vacation and go to restaurants. And like, plenty of people have 3+ kids AND go on vacations and go to restaurants...........

Also, there is a difference between sacrificing ski vacations vs. sacrificing shampoo and pencils haha. Yea, if you can't afford shampoo and pencils then don't have 3 kids.....[/quote]

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