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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't think the substance of the request is off, given that the person was there and had it last time, but I do agree that the lack of plesantries or a friendly tone suggests that this will not be a great roomate experience.  Who wants to live in a room with someone who is not especially friendly or warm?[/quote]

I Agree! She could have said ....hello, looking forward to meeting you, fyi and a little awkward but I was given/ took/ won window spot for year but because of covid packed up in case of no return, my plan is to just move back to same spot so heads up in case you get there before me. It’s a great room/ warm room/ lots of sunlight room and I know you’ll be comfortable......

Some people are self-centered and do not communicate well. Tell dd to go along and look for single or roommate of choosing for future.[/quote]

I think this is great advice, even though I disagree with the above poster -- I think the request is off.

The right thing for OP's daughter to do is to go along with it, note the rude behavior, but go in as open minded as possible and see if they can get off on a better foot when they meet in person. It's making the best of it, which is part of what college and shared housing is about. There isn't much to be gained by initiating an argument before they've even met in person.

But that's exactly why I think the substance of the request is off. The roommate is putting OP's daughter in the position of having to give up something advantageous before she even had a chance to get it. That's so weird. And the roommate obviously understands she's asking for something of value. At a minimum, she should have offered something of value in return, or asked if there was some aspect of their living arrangement OP's daughter wanted, as she asked for what is basically a favor. The roommate is being rude, and not just in tone -- it is not an appropriate request and if it were my daughter, I would have encouraged her to handle it in a more generous, welcoming way (by either letting chips fall where they may, or seeing if she could strike a friendly deal with her new roommate).[/quote]

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