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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Get a postnup now, while the iron is hot.

It’s basically negotiating the terms of your divorce while there is still the hope of the marriage staying intact—which is a much more constructive bargaining position for both of you, and a stronger position for the person who would lose or have to fight for the most otherwise.

It will raise the price of future bad acts to the point where they may not occur, and if they do you may not care.[/quote]

Very good advice!

Mine went and got STI tested, a vasectomy, drafted a VERY generous post-nup, and started therapy all BEFORE I asked for anything.  It was in the first two weeks after he dumped the AP and confessed everything to me. He had all of that done. He also answered every.single question I had and continues to do so and I asked some very explicit stuff.  Nothing was off limits.  He also immediately gave me the woman’s name, etc.

He did all of the grocery shopping, cooking (and still is) 9 months later.  Cleans, drives the kid, checks their school work, etc.  He made a chart of time he wasted (the hour or so a month) he spent with her and a pay back time chart.  Again, nothing I asked for.

BUT—most important is the post-nup!!! I make great $/have a great career and always have—but if this were ever to happen again—I’d get both homes.

My therapist calls them “guard rails” before id even be willing to consider reconciliation I would want some high @ss guard rails before I’d even consider reconciling.  And, hey, you can change your mind at anytime.[/quote]

SO he keeps cheating, dosn't risk getting anywone getting pregnant and got you thinking he's turned a new leaf. Get money![/quote]

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