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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I just came back to a to of replies - wow - so a few answers to questions... I work from home so we are always together. She works from home too, a couple hours a day, in our business. We live in the suburbs of a large city. We have a large home, large garden, pool etc. I feel like I’ve given her everything she wanted - children, not working, lovely home - but all of it is not enough because she’s 3 hours away from her family. She has friends here but she doesn’t make much effort in our community (or even improving our house) because she thinks “I don’t want to be here so what’s the point?” I love her family, they are really great, but I also love my parents, who live close by. My wife lived in the city when we started our relationship. I told her back then that this is where my life is, as I had a large business here (which I’ve since sold.) I asked her to be sure this is where she wants to be. Ofc that was years ago and I respect that things change - OP[/quote]

With all that background if I were you I would not move. But your attitude does seem a little uncomfortably quid pro quo. I would be upset if my husband said he should have more of a say in anything because “gave me” kids and a house, and his job allowed me to be a stay at home mom. In my marriage those were decisions we made together.  Those shouldn’t be relevant unless those decisions were explicitly a compromise for her staying in the city. [/quote]

Also I should mention that based on what you’re saying, it really does sound like your wife is being selfish. I hope other areas in your marriage are strong because yeah I don’t see a ton of love here by either of you. [/quote]

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