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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Because we like kids?  What a weird question. [/quote]

It’s not weird, especially if you complain constantly about how busy and hectic and exhausted you are. Most of my friends who have three constantly complain. I just want to be like, uh, what did you think having three kids was going to be like, a walk in the park?[/quote]

I have 3 and we both work full time. Husband travels a lot for work (pre Covid) and I travel a bit too. Things were great before Covid. Older kids were in school and baby was with the nanny. Now I have to help my PK and 1st grader (though she is pretty independent now) with DL. So now I complain a bit. When my third was born, I had no idea I would have had to help my older kids 3-4 hours a day with DL.

Why do you feel the need to write something like this? Why would anyone decide to not give their child a playmate?[/quote]

Its the truth.  They had little time for their 2 kids but could outsource easily between the nanny and school but now she probably has to help a bit with 2 kids and an infant while the nanny tends to the infant.  She needs to hire more help.  I don't get families iike this as neither parent is home much so kids are an accessory rather than the priority.  I don't get how you don't realize you could have your kids with you 24/7.[/quote]

In what world is hovering parent a healthy childhood.  Kids literally NEVER grew up this way.  The amount of domestic labor women had was huge and kids were sent outside and left to other kids to raise.  There is substantial evidence that working moms today spend way more time with their kids than SAHMs in the 50s-70s did. Dads also spend more time with their kids. So whether or not both parents work, kids are getting more parental attention than ever before. And then there’s the nutters that feel they need to be hovered over endlessly by a parent - if you want to be worried about a set of kids worry about those snowflakes [/quote]

+1000 
Kids with some autonomy and sibling play over the helicopter kids who spend all day with parents. There’s no point in civilization where that’s considered normal child rearing or family life[/quote]

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