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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] [b]Adopting is done for selfish reasons. You want a child that is your own. That has no other parents and no links to any other family.[/b] Nobody adopts because they want to give a child a home. They adopt because a child is what they want. Children are placed in adoption have homes, but the adoptive home is supposed to be better.

Sometimes the adoptive home is not better. If the family is so intent on changing the name of a 7 year old, then they hardly received any pre-adoption counseling, or thought about how the child will feel later on in life.
I really doubt that changing the name if the child is the one and only parenting mistake they will ever make.
And do not compare bio parents to adoptive parents. The adoptive parents would not even have the child if it was 'in the beginning' believed that they would be able to give a better home. [/quote]

I probably should not respond to you as you appear to have lost your marbles. This statement is crazy illogical.

Adopted parents are the ones who want a child with no links to any other family?  Aren't bio kids the ones who have links to no other families and adopted kids, by definition, have such links?

Also, do bio parents have kids for some other reason than "a child is what they want"? I don't see how the desires of adoptive parents and the desires of bio parents are all that different. BTW, I am neither a bio parent nor an adoptive parent, but a stepparent,  so I have no skin in the game.

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