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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I will be 39 in 2 months and am 8 weeks pregnant. I'm in a stable marriage and have 2 kids 8 and 4.5. This was not planned. I feel I'm too old, we both work full time abd life is very busy as it is. We don't have the bandwidth to add an infant to this. My oldest has inattentive ADHD and I worry that in addition to all the risks associated with age, this baby might also have some form of ADHD or autism. Its not the worst thing in the world but we just don't have the capability to raise a special needs child. I feel overwhelmed already. I should terminate this right?

Fwiw, I'm not Christian and I don't belive I'm killing a life yet. It is a feteus not a baby yet. But the possibility  of a healthy baby and a wonderful addition to our family and I guess some rosy edition of this tugs at my heart. I know its not practical.
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My mom had me at 39, I have no special needs or learning disabilities. Many people who have other children with special needs go on to have perfectly healthy babies. You really have no indication that you are having a special needs child besides the fact you are worrying.

We are not going to debate whether you "should" have an abortion or keep the baby. You're pregnant, do you want to have a third child yes or no. If no, then terminate. If yes, keep it. But don't terminate the pregnancy because you are worried you may have a special needs child. You have 0 indication right now that you have one, you are just assuming that you may. Even if you do, humans are really capable of handling things that are not "practical".

Goodluck OP![/quote]

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