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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You have two kids that will one day ask you why you are divorced.  Even if they don't say it, they will one day wonder if you worked hard at saving your marriage.
Give it a year of personal and marriage counseling if you have any inkling of staying.  Try to let go of the resentment and recognize that you probably weren't perfect either.  After the year if you feel the same way, you can leave knowing that you tried.  [/quote]

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Sure my parents could have easily divorced because they weren't "happy". But now with kids of my own, and a DH that comes from a divorced home, I am overjoyed that my parents stuck it out, and continue to. It's truly one of the greatest gifts you can give your children. [/quote]

Co-parenting and being amicable for kids and not fighting and being depressed and miserable your entire life is the greatest gift you can give your kids...it is not marriage itself. This can happen in a marriage or divorce. Sounds like your parents marriage was not that bad if they stuck it out. Rarely people get divorced if it is just unhappiness...usually it is much worse...conflict, fighting, no shared life, no shared goals, no love or affection, mental illness, abuse, etc. Your anecdote of your parents staying together does not describe most marriages that end if divorce...and those that are necessary are much better than people staying miserable for life and having their kids repeat that. [/quote]

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