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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's interesting that the woman posting on here have this long laundry list of what they think men want, and men posting on here just basically have a couple of items:

1. fun to be with, like sex
2. reasonably attractive
3. low drama

Everything else is gravy.  Maybe the "fun to be with" is a catch all for "similar outlook, intelligence, etc". [/quote]

Nope.  I am hot---but a big draw for my spouse was that I was hot AND had great credit/great job and was intelligent in addition to all of those other things.

I do think women/men that check the hot/fun/like sex/low drama AND are smart/good jobs are top in line.

If you have 1-3 with somebody--you don't want a dummy to be a mother or father to your children.  You are SMART enough to realize intelligence and ambition are partly genetic and that looks and libido change in life.[/quote]

I can see why the US has so many dummies that can't even locate the US on a World map.  Procreating with mediocre/low intelligence is a good part of it.[/quote]
How many men actually think about procreation and how their kids will turn out when they are thinking about LTR?  I  just don't see it.

IMO, most  men don't think in concrete terms when they are contemplating marriage. They know that maybe one day they will have kids, but that's not in the forefront of their minds when they are considering getting married, at least not in concrete terms. It's  more of a "one day in the distant future.. maybe".. thought.

Most men think about the here and now.  They like how you are *now*. They don't think that in 10 years time after the kids come along that things will change. Whereas women tend to be the opposite - they see a man's potential and what he could be like after they get married.

There's a huge disconnect, and that often leads to a lot of problems after they get married.[/quote]

No.  That is COMPLETE crazy talk. Every man I know has considered long-term of the women they are asking to marry them.  I can't tell you how many conversations are about what her parents are like, genetic attributes (yes), her career or earning potential, etc.  Education is also a biggie. But, I am UMC in a family of now divorce and I'm 50 and none of my friends married 20+ years are divorced either.  People are equally matched in intellect, education (sometimes one went to a 'better' college or one is liberal arts and one is scientist, etc).

I also have listened to so many conversations where people have advised somebody 'do not marry her, your life will be a living hell'---because of personality, lack of ambition, combativeness, attitude, etc.[/quote]
Look at all the rich men married to dumb or no  career, but hot women.  Most of these men are intelligent and wealthy, but not so great looking. Doesn't appear to me that these wealthy men care that much about a woman's career prospects, but they do seem to care about her waist and breast size.[/quote]

And children end up being do-nothings, grifters, or addicted to something- but they have access to dad’s money so not all is lost. [/quote]

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