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[quote=Anonymous]My DH was diagnosed with ADHD shortly after our daughter was born. He is medicated for ADHD now. There haven’t been significant safety lapses with our child, but DH’s lapses have become more frequent, worrisome, and expensive.

DD’s care uses a very small portion of his hyperfocus; all of his energy is used for work and very basic care of her. Work actually takes him far longer now because he has trouble toggling between family mode and work mode. His job is very 8-5 but for him it’s more like 7-11. He cannot multitask. I don’t mean doing dishes while taking a call: I mean he can’t even see an empty milk container in the morning and register in his brain that we are out of milk until he is done working for the night. For him ADHD and parenting aren’t a great mix.

I was able to stretch my mental energy and executive functioning to accommodate another human being’s needs, but DH cannot. He has a set capacity for focus and attention. It took me a LONG time to understand that and I’m by no means comfortable with it. Personally I am worn out by the state of hypervigilance PPs described.

DH has resisted executive functioning coaching and went to some basic therapy for managing his ADHD. OP, I think serious and quality executive functioning coaching for your DH could have big payoffs later. [/quote]

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