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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Two things can be true: your sister had unremitting mysterious pain AND your sister has dramatic / high maintenance tendencies.  Did you sister have these tendencies earlier/in other aspects of life or only with regard to this problem?

I agree with PP that you should [b]try to be supportive w/o feeding the drama[/b], starting with "I am so happy for you that you found an explanation. How can I help you get through the surgery?"
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I agree with this.  Just because the pain is real doesn't mean that everything else stops for everyone else.  I say this as someone who lives in constant pain because of a car accident when I was a child.  I have no right to disrupt others' lives with my complaints just because I hurt.  Unfortunately it doesn't sound like OP's sister got that message.  I see both sides of this and I don't think that OP is out of line in her wanting the sister to get a better handle on her emotions and to reel back the drama.[/quote]

You don’t understand because people believed you since you had a car accident. [/quote]

Not really.  People who know me today know nothing about the accident because I haven't told them.  I also don't tell them about the pain.  My point is that some people wear their emotions on their skin and they feel that everyone has to know what they're feeling come hell or high water.  And that isn't so.  OP's sister has done as much damage to herself emotionally and her relationships with others by her actions as probably the health problem has done to her body.[/quote]

If you don’t tell people about your pain, that’s on you. You sound damaged. [/quote]

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