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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I originally went into this thread thinking no big deal, but the more I think about it, the more I think this is a deal breaker. It is a small, stupid, inconsequential thing to lie about. If you lie about small stupid and inconsequential things, you will lie about much more important things. [/quote]

I agree, and the "I want to get past filters" justification makes it worse to me, not better. If someone says they don't want to date you it's kind of gross to try to "sneak" around that. There's a difference between casting a wide net and misrepresenting yourself to get more matches.

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As someone who has online dated off and on over 6 years over probably 10 different sites, if you don’t realize that most people on online dating are misrepresenting themselves to a degree, you haven’t done much online dating. Whether it’s shaving years off an age, adding inches to height, wearing a ball cap in photos to hide baldness, using photos that are filtered or professionally (or not) edited, saying they’re a non-smoker when really they’re a social smoker  - it’s all people minimizing what makes them insecure/unappealing. It’s fine if OP doesn’t want to date someone the age that their person has turned out to be, but realize that it’s unlikely the next profile or the next 10 you run across is going to be 100% accurate upfront. That’s just not the norm. It’s not so much about dishonesty -it’s more about insecurity. [/quote]

+1 I admit to one of those who shave a few years from my profile mostly because I wanted to meet someone younger with kids my age (I had kids late in life). I usually came clean before the first date. One woman was particularly upset with me for misrepresenting my age--but it didn't seem to matter that her photo looked like it was from 10 years ago. I have been off the market for several years as I did find happiness with a wonderful woman.[/quote]

You are still lying. No way you were looking for someone younger with kids the same age.  I pity the fool who is investing her time into you - liar, liar, pants on fire.[/quote]

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