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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What’s keeping you from just going with it? You cared enough to hook up with him. Are you sure there are no feelings there on your part? Are you sure he’s not what you want?[/quote]

OP here. I don’t like him. I was tipsy, he kissed me, and we had sex. I broke up with my ex-boyfriend a week ago. I’m not ready for anything. [/quote]

Just curious: how many people have you slept with only because they wanted to/initiated it?[/quote]

She was highly vulnerable, and had been drinking.

Stop being so harsh. We all need ways to get through the night.[/quote]

No.  For an adult, this is such a selfish, immature way to behave.  OP owes her friend a sincere apology.  She used him.[/quote]

[b]What?? Wasn't he an adult? How was the using not mutual, just for different motivations.[/b]

He had NO indications that this was more than a friendship, and he went for it. He is not exactly harmed by this exchange. And now she is asking how to extricate herself kindly. How many GUYS would worry about that in a similar circumstance?
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I do think that in male-female friendships, it is usually clear that one person feels more, or would want more if it were on offer.  And I think that in the case of a friendship, where you are not the person who wants more, it is responsible and ethical to avoid any situation that could end up hurting the other person.  They weren't strangers.  If she cared for him as a friend, she had an obligation not to...use him in this way.

This was badly done, OP, and I feel sorry for this man.  [/quote]

OP here. I didn't use him. We have never been romantic and he has never showed any interests in me until last night. I didn't know until after we slept together that he had feelings for me. I would have not slept with him if I had known that. Trying to slut shame me is rude. [/quote]

You sound very naive.[/quote]

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