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[quote=Anonymous]I'm probably talking to myself, but I might as well finish what I started:

Before going on, I want to note again that my premise #1 is what most people would reject.  Freely consenting adults can do whatever they want, because their free consent confer legitimacy on their actions, right?

No one really believes that.  Well, they believe it for their own actions, but when they come across something that feels wrong, they say it is because "free consent" is lacking.  Like statutory rape--a 16 year old girl is not old enough to freely consent.  Or arranged marriage--a woman in a repressive patriarchal society cannot freely consent, because she is misinformed of her worth and her rights.  Or date rape--a woman cannot freely consent when she is buzzed, or drunk, or high, or feeling peer pressure.

Problem is, why does "free consent" confer legitimacy, when billions of people do not, will not, and have never, agreed with that standard?  Go to Afghanistan and ask a sheik about that idea, and see how far it gets you.

So maybe cultures get to write their own rules, instead of individuals.  But then we are forced to accept sexual practices that we find truly abhorrent.  In fact, we can't say ANYTHING is actually wrong.

No, it doesn't work.  It helps us on a private level, but it leaves a lot of exploitation and violence go.

Maybe you still insist there is no celestial rulebook.  Fine.  Just suspend disbelief long enough for me to finish my explanation, and never fear--Church Lady will not be taking away your porn or telling you how to live your marriage.  It's a free country.

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