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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Here's what got to me about OP's post.  [b]She reports her DD is developmentally delayed.  She then says that her friend's DD who is only two weeks younger hasn't even met the milestones that OP's DD has met.[/b]  If I were the friend, I'd probably be pretty freaked out if I were realizing that my child was behind that of my friend's developmentally delayed child.  But instead of getting where the friend is coming from, OP is irritated about it.  And worse, through her post of comparisons seems to build her DD up by essentially saying that her friend's DD is even more disabled but her friend just doesn't recognize it.  [/quote]

I took it as "omg! can you believe my friend's kid is sooooo much worse off than mine and her's is not "developmentally delayed". Wow there is something wrong with that kid" The rest of her post I took as "Ha Ha, I mad my friend a basketcase over her kids development. good! she deserved it after all cause my kid had to have PT and that's not fair bc I lost some bragging points for that. Now friend will know how it feels!"
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You took it wrong.

I'm the OP and I tried to emphasize the aspects in which the other mother tried to rush her child into doing something she was clearly not ready. She was constantly giving reasons why her child was not doing what my child was and after reading this thread with lots of attention I understand that the poor lady was probably freaking out that her child was "behind" my "delayed" kid.

I was irritated because instead of having a constructive conversation about our childrens' milestones we transformed the afternoon in a comparison fest. I should be more attentive to this mom's concerns next time and like a PP suggested I'll try not to downplay the interaction. When we met for the first time there was very little talk about the children. We had no chance to "compare" them. It was more about getting to know each other. I just got annoyed this time around because I thought the kid would play and we would get to talk again, like grown ups but instead [b]it became a shower of excuses from her side[/b] and I was just trying to make it less awkward.

I guess I got the input I was looking for. Thanks to all who came with helpful and kind advice. 
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Well, I can see you're well on your way to being more attentive to her concerns.[/quote]

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