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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't see the other parents as being competitive.  I just see them expressing how they are impressed with what your child is doing.  They are clearly impressed in the context of knowing with their DD can and can not do (probably their only reference point), but really all they were doing was giving you compliments about your DD.[/quote]
This.  From the original post I take it that you don't get together with the other couple that often.  Honestly, your child doesn't sound delayed, and that is great considering she is SN.  The PT is obviously working, and great job on being such an advocate for your child.  
When we get together with my ILs, there are two sets of twins that are 3 weeks older and 3 weeks younger than DD respectively.  There are always conversations along the lines of "Wow your DD can do this, ours is still doing that" especially by the grandparents.  I never thought of it as a competition, and I never thought that any one of them walking/eating a wider variety of food/having better fine motor skills than another was a sign of anything.  Kids develop at different paces and at this age (all the children are still under the age of 2), there is such a wide range of normal.  That's probably just me though, I bet my SILs interpreted my "good for your child" comments as being defensive and perhaps I made them uncomfortable.  
You should learn to either interpret the comments that your friends were making about your child not as a competitive type of comment, but more as a compliment and move on.  I know easier said than done.[/quote]

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