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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Here is what I told my son:

1.  Always use a condom. Even if she says you don't have to. Even if you can't feel everything as much (you'd sure feel the STD you catch, or the baby spit up or worse at 4am). Even if she says she's on birth control (people lie, bc fails sometimes)
2.  If you're having sex with someone you're in a relationship with, offer to split the cost of birth control - it's both your responsibility, not just hers
3.  Just because you have sex once (or ten times) with someone doesn't mean you have to have sex with them again if you don't want to
4. Just because you have sex in one relationship or with one person doesn't mean you have to have sex with everyone else after them
5.  Even though you're a boy you can say no too.  
6.  If a girl ever says no or stop or seems like she wants to say those things but can't, stop. Err on the side of caution.
7.  Do NOT film it
8.  Have sex with people who are sober.  If you're not sure, don't risk it.
9.  If you are worried something is wrong, see a doctor.. Ask me. Ask your dad. We will send you to a doctor, or go with you if you want.  
10. Planned Parenthood sees men also. 
11. Doctors and nurses have seen EVERYTHING. No matter what you could have possibly done or shoved anywhere, nothing will phase them.  Be honest. I swear they will not laugh.
12. If you're about to have sex with someone and something doesn't look right, don't do it. [/quote]

+1
This is great advice [/quote]

Agreed. I would also add a few things:

- as the male in the relationship, be aware that if your partner gets pregnant you have literally no control of what happens. She gets to decide whether or not to have an abortion, give the baby up for adoption, or keep it. If she chooses the third option, you are on the hook financially for the next 18+ years.

- Once a relationship becomes sexual, it becomes more difficult to end it. Do not stay in a relationship simply because you have had sex if it isn't a good relationship for you. [/quote]

Yes! These are the reasons 16 year olds should not be having sex. They are still kids. [b]It’s just too much emotionally for them to handle. They should be focused on school and sports and college or their future and having fun[/b]. Sex is fun but it’s also heavy and complicated. [/quote]

I'm the person who wrote out the 12 point list.  My son went to college at 16. He had his first girlfriend in his senior year of high school. He was focused on school, music, college, and having fun. Part of having fun was dating and going into the city and exploring his independence.  Different kids are at different maturity levels.  [/quote]

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