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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A caution from a medical professional - never confuse personality/bedside manners with medical skills/knowledge. Some of the loveliest, warmest doctors were terrible practitioners, but their patients loved them. One of the finest doctors I ever had the privilege to work with had terrible bedside manners - and the greatest assessment and interventional skills that saved many patients. Patients/family would complain that he didn’t smile enough, or didn’t tell jokes with them. You’re choosing someone to manage your child’s birth - why take a midwife over a trained/licensed physician? Seems foolish to me - this isn’t a cocktail party where you want to have a fun evening. A midwife in a practice with physicians seems fine as there is backup easily available. I’d go with an OB physician every time - I want the best trained, most educated professional who can step up in an emergency. [/quote]

Yes +1. I had a midwife assisted birth for my first delivery (was planning an unmedicated vaginal birth) and it was a goddamn train wreck. I had unanticipated complications and needed physician collaboration and it was not handled well - there was role confusion, it was unclear who was in charge, they had different ideas about what to do, etc. The midwives I was with thought pushing for hours was totally fine and didn’t feel the need to warn me of the risks of prolonged second stage or pelvic floor injury so my mismanaged birth resulted with me having permanently injured my pelvic floor so badly I would need C-sections for all future births. I remember looking at my newborn’s bruises face from being stuck in the birth canal so long and regretting with every core of my being that I had prioritized my experience and emotional support needs over choosing the most skilled medical provider. It’s something I still regret to this day. [/quote]

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Lady, get some therapy and stop blaming midwives for your birth experience. [/quote]

I will blame them because it will forever be inappropriate that they allowed and encouraged me to push for nine hours. I was so delirious and exhausted and ignorant I had no idea this was inappropriate. And I have permanent injuries as a result. So don’t ever tell me to shut up. [/quote]

You actually should shut up, though. Your experience had nothing to do with the midwives. Blame yourself. Plenty of women push for far longer and everything turns out fine. It's perfectly appropriate. Therapy would help you but you're too dense to realize it. [/quote]

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