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[quote=Anonymous]Dear OP, I can actually relate to what you are saying.  My husband and I are very different on the intelligence scale.  (And, I am glad this post is anonymous, because I would never admit it in public.) I am a lawyer at one of DC's top 5 law firms. He has a college degree, but didn't do well in college.  He works a mostly physical, union-secured job.  When in a discussion, I think quickly, respond immediately, and sometimes run circles around him in discussions.  I also get impatient and frustrated when he can't respond (needs "time" to think) about what I think are simple issues.  He often tells me that I am condescending to him and sometimes rudely impatient when he doesn't think fast enough. We don't talk about currrent affairs because our knowledge gap is so large.  Sometimes I wonder why we married 9 years ago and whether we will be compatible long term.

And then I remember......oh yeah....he is the most supportive, loving, honest, helpful, joyful, delightful person I know.  Prior to him, I was married to a smart, intelligent, arrogant, rude, irresponsible, narcassistic, physician with Ivy League credentials.  He cheated on me and proved to me that character is more important than IQ.  My current husband is not terribly smart, but he is an absolutely wonderful human being.  He is an amazing father, because of him, our home is a happy one filled with laughter, and there isn't a day that goes by that I am not grateful for him in my life.

I don't think I would have had this perspective without the previous comparison. Your husband sounds like a wonderful person.  Please, take it from me.....be grateful for that.  Intelligence sometimes also brings with it ego that compromises character.  I'd choose character over IQ any day.[/quote]

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