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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What about WAH?

It’s really the best of both worlds.  I am here at home.  I work when kids are in school.  I have an incredibly flexible Fed job in my field.  I have great health benefits, retirement and a GS-15 salary.  I don’t need to work because my husband makes a high income, but I find it fulfilling and my parents did tell all of us to always keep a foot in the workplace.  You never know what will happen in life.  My mom worked and my mother-in-law worked and my dad was very involved in our lives and cooked dinners, coached teams, etc.  My husband and I are proud of our mother’s careers. I think it sets a good example for my sons that both parents contribute equally at home and earn.

It really takes the pressure off from one spouse being solely financially responsible.  [/quote]
How is this different than a regular set up other than alleviating your commute? I have a 10 minute walk to work anyway. And then it just means that the parent who works from home has to do all the laundry, cleaning and meal prep while also somehow doing their job.

I work PT and it's the best AND worst of both worlds. My job always creeps over the 25 hours/week, but because it's PT I also do all the home stuff between the hours of 8-6. It's overrated. What would be best is if both partners can work 30ish hours per week.[/quote]

i totally agree that everyone should be working 25-30 hours a week --- men and women. Before and after child-rearing, you can take two of those jobs if you want to work more.

i'm like the OP -- stayed home while the kids were babies, worked before and ramping up again now that the youngest is almost in preschool, and planning to work when they are both in school. I'm in a flexible field and will probably work 9-3 so they don't have to go to aftercare.

But[b] I think the tension comes because many, many women question whether or not they made the right decision, and debating it is a way for them to make the argument to themselves that they did the right thing. SAH moms wonder if they are losing something by not working (independence, intellectual stimulation, and a financial safety net of their own) and WOH moms wonder if their kids are suffering.[/b][/quote]

Totally disagree with the 25-30 hour a week mandate/goal, but totally agree with the bolded. [/quote]

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