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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hormonal and really sensitive right now but if my family asks me one more time how the baby is doing and never following up with how I am doing I am going to lose my mind. I am not an incubator[/quote]

No, but you are a mother.

Mothers like you rarely end up close to their children.

You see they come first not you. You are already an adult or oh wait maybe not?

Grow up.

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My mother martyred herself to motherhood. We are not close. I watched her always put herself last, even when it cost her physical and mental wellbeing. I love her but I view that as an unhealthy and unnecessary way of life. I now keep her at arms length because I don't want to get buried in that martyrdom.

My own daughter knows I love her with ever fiber of my being. She also observes that I take care of myself, ask for help when I need, and take time and space for me. And as a result, she is learning to do the same. Showing my child what self-compassion looks like, and that it is not selfish but necessary is one of the greatest gifts I can give her.[/quote]

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