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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband worked for a big company that was sold three years ago. He had a good severance package and was supposed to start a consulting business with some former colleagues but it didn’t work out. At the same time our third DC was born and I got a promotion at work. I had always earned more so we agreed that DH would be a full time parent while I would continue to work

Three years later and I’m really frustrated and unhappy with this situation. DH is a good guy but he’s lazy and low energy, he’s always been this way. He doesn’t do much and doesn’t want to make any effort. We still have the same full time nanny and his role is supposed to be to support the kids but a lot of stuff falls through the cracks. He says it’s hard to set up play dates as a dad, but really he’s just lazy. I do all the clothes shopping, planning, birthday or holiday management etc. Our nanny does all the cooking and cleans when DCs are at school.

This situation wasn’t working for me for the last few years but with Covid my work has been much more stressful and demanding, basically 24x7, while he hasn’t picked up enough of the slack to help me out. I had expected that once he left a job he didn’t love he’d be much happier and more energetic, which would lift our family and relationship overall. But instead he’s less stressed and I’m more stressed to the point that now I need something to change.

His lack of engagement makes me feel like he doesn’t care about me. Which is sad because I feel like I’m so stressed out all the time which is making me really unhappy.

He never earned that much so it doesn’t make sense for him to go back to work, unless I tell him I want a divorce in which case it would be better for me that he was financially independent.

Any time I talk to DH and tell him how I’m feeling he just blows me off because he doesn’t want to change. 
We tried therapy but the shrink actually recommended that I [b]chill out more! [/b]

I just don’t know what to do next. Any ideas?
Thanks [/quote]

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How would should I do this for when I’m unhappy?[/quote]

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