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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t have friends who would speak to me like that. You have a friend problem not a SAHM problem. [/quote]
This.  OP, the mommy wars are for the Internet. If you're experiencing them in real life, you need new friends.[/quote]

Agreed.  Maybe you should set up some playdates with their awesome, professional nannies.  They might be nicer people, and [b]they might get into the weeds with you on this parenting thing[/b][/quote]

See, OP?  Gratuitous SAHM judgmental comments.  They're out there too![/quote]

How is that judgmental?  
[b]OP said that she was upset that her friends wouldn't get into the weeds with her on the day to day parenting stuff.[/b]  That's rough.  
Her friends are also kind of crappy and judgmental.  She might find better friends with their nannies.  [/quote]

First of all, no she didn't say that.  She never said she wanted her friends to get into the weeds with her and they won't, she said she feels like they're judging her parenting when they talk about parenting issues.

Secondly, saying that nannies are more in the weeds of parenting than WOHMs is gratuitously judgmental, and crappy while we're at it.  [/quote]

From the OP:
[b]"I don't expect my WOHM friends to get into the weeds with me on certain parenting things, and I've gotten used to using blogs and podcasts for that stuff."[/b]

And I thought you were accusing me of judging SAHMs.  I didn't even realize I was being accused of judging WOHMs.  I guess this shows you how much baggage we all carry in to these mommy wars.  It's kind of depressing.

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DP. As a former SAHM, I read both you and OP as judging WOHMs with those quotes. FWIW.[/quote]

I am OP. What I meant is that when you SAH, sometimes you need ideas for how to keep your kid occupied all day everyday, or ideas for snacks that pack well, or other things that someone whose kid is in daycare might not think much about. It wasn't a slight on WOHMs or a commentary on their parenting. It's a recognition that my friends with jobs probably do not want to spend time discussing story time schedules or the benefits of napping at home versus napping on the run. But I do have to deal with that stuff. I probably would not enjoy discussing daycare payment policies either.[/quote]

I get that, but what you don't seem to understand is that you are also saying things that your WOHM friends could interpret as nasty. In other words, if your WOHM friends are sensitive the way you are, you are being as mean as you say they are.

You are coming across as pretty self-absorbed in your posts, and I think, gently, you need to stop the navel gazing. [/quote]

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