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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]I admit, whenever I see a woman married to a "good guy" and by that I mean, someone desirable and high quality with good character, well respected and an overall decent guy, I am envious. It is challenging to meet and date these types of guys so if she is one who manages to get and settle down with one, I consider it an accomplishment.[/b] Having 1 or 2 well adjusted kids rates her success even higher.

I do not think it is an accomplishment to marry or procreate with low quality guys. I guess its biology. Women choose to mate with the highest quality man possible. Those who can are winners.[/quote]

It's not hard if you meet and settle down right after college or before late twenties.[/quote]

This is true. In my observation, these guys are the first to exit the dating scene and marry college GFs or the girls they meet upon graduation. I also suspect the longer someone has been in the dating pool, the more [b]damaged or broken[/b] they are. [/quote]

Honest question - how do you define "damaged and broken"? And to what extent does this render someone a bad potential partner? 
Assuming you aren't one of those old school religious people who thinks women should marry as virgins, what do you think not finding the right partner into your 30s means someone is "damaged"? Is coming out of an abusive relationship, having been cheated on or ghosted, having one's heart broken, anything else that isn't necessarily their fault - does this make someone "damaged" and therefore ineligible? [/quote]

you're wondering why they aren't married, what other people saw that you aren't, what flaw ended things before that you haven't found yet... [/quote]

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