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[quote=Anonymous]OP hasn't come back with any details, right? I realize that the OP does NOT say if the person asking is the 32F or the 55M, and we're all making assumptions here that it's the younger woman who is asking. Maybe it's the 55M! Did I miss a post saying it's the woman posting for certain?

Either way, this is a gap that works for very few people, I think.

Here's a slightly different angle. Answering as if the OP is definitely the woman, but hey, I think this is a bad idea if OP is the man, too. Writing as if it's the woman:

OP, you are from different generations. I know, some will say that is irrelevant if you're in love. But even if he remains in remarkable health, has great sex drive even as he gets older, you're both financially fine so no conflicts there, etc., etc., you may still have more differences, due to your different generational backgrounds, than you realize right now. I'm [u]not[/u] talking about silly, simplistic stuff like "He loves 70s' music, ew!" I'm talking about life experiences, values, and where you go from here.

Has he been married before? If divorced, why?

Does he know you want...whatever you really want? Like a business you want to open that would take up a lot of your time away from him, or a job you might land in another location requiring a move, etc.? Would your work and personal life in your early 30s mean things (travel, job somewhere distant, ambition that will take up time, interests and hobbies that don't interest him) that would conflict with what he might want (does he want to travel more--or less? Is he wanting you to spend more time with him and would resent your having a career, or even a serious hobby, that took more of your time in coming years, not less?).

In short, your goals and interests as a person in her 30s might start to look like "things that take you away from me" to him in another 5-10 years. That's a recipe for conflict. Maybe he says right now that he loves your interests, involvements, ambitions. And he surely means it. But will he start to see things differently as he gets older?

And all that doesn't even get into the idea of motherhood if you want that too.
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