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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would have preferred to not change my name, but it meant a lot to my husband, so I did. Now I am a white woman with a typical Korean last name. [/quote]

Koreans don’t even change their last name on marriage so it’s interesting that it was important to him! My husband is also Korean and it never even occurred to him or any of his family members to even ask if I would change my name. Which was great, bc I never intended on changing it, “ethnic” husband or no. The kids have his last name (because mine is literally Smith and I don’t particularly care about passing it on) and that’s the important thing to them.

I do think that since my husband is “ethnic” people are much less likely to automatically assume I took his name or that I have the same last name as my kids. So to the extent that’s ever a problem for other women, it never has been for me.[/quote]

A lot (probably a majority??) of Korean Americans women change their names after getting married...but yes, in Korea, the women don't but it all sounds very patriarchal to me the way they do it- by slapping a Mrs. on the front. I hate being called Mrs. even though I'm married.  [/quote]

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