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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This thread is fascinating. [b]I thought we modern women were supposed to be tougher than this.[/b]

OP it will be harder when baby becomes mobile. In any event if you need help, I would wait a few weeks at least when you’re really tired. I had 3rd-and 4th- degree tears with my kids. It sucked but it was manageable. No way I’d have my mom or someone else here to help, because for the rest of my life I’d hear about I HAD to have help / couldn’t handle it alone. Mom would help but it would come at a serious cost. The truth is I could handle it and did. Any additional support would’ve been a nice to have — maybe. Depends on how much of an emotional drain your own mother is (or will be). My mom is the martyr type. YMMV.[/quote]

This is so toxic.  There is no shame in having help after going through childbirth and taking care of you and your baby.  Attitudes like this are what drive women to depression and anxiety.  UGH[/quote]
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Sorry you don't get along with your mom, but many of us do.   I really enjoyed the time bonding with my mom and appreciated her help.  Throughout history, women have had help after childbirth, usually from other female relatives like mothers, aunts, grandmothers, and older sisters.  I COULD have taken care of my newborn on my own, but it was much more pleasant to have company and a little extra TLC.  And if you had complications of any kind, extra help is even more useful.  I agree -- there is no shame in having help, and the idea that women should do it alone -- and want to do it alone -- is really toxic.  [/quote]

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