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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Don't make a lifelong decision because of a temporary period ("crazy" toddler). Yea, your life might be crazy for a few years, but then it'll calm down and you'll have two kids. Plus, your crazy toddler might really enjoy having a little sibling, and eventually they'll be able to play together. My 2nd baby (now 16 months) is way crazier than my first one, but he runs around and plays with my first (3.5) and it's a lot of fun.[/quote]

This is terrible logic and reinforces the default pressure that everyone has to have two. What if her two don't get along and she spends the next 18 years refereeing fights? Or one develops special needs and it never calms down Why should OP sign herself up for a second on the possibility that they could play together and it may calm down eventually? Reread the OP and imagine if she was deciding to go for a third, then would you say "ignore the financial pressure, exhaustion, COVID stress" and go for it because it may work out in a few years? She doesn't NEED another kid and her kid doesn't NEED a sibling. A financially secure, well balanced set of parents is light years more important than a sibling that they may play with in a few years.

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We are exhausted and COVID has obviously thrown a wrench in things. DH took a pay cut and money was tight with one in daycare to begin with. I am 37 so don’t want to wait much longer, but the thought of going through pregnancy, no sleep, struggling financially, and this maniac stage he is in, is making me think maybe 1 is for us.[/quote][/quote]

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