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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sigh.  School is about rules that work for the majority of people.  So maybe your kid is thin and your kid doesn't get high off sugar and preservatives, but other kids do.  So they prohibit for everyone.  Duh.  Maybe your kid doesn't act out super hero characters because of a cartoon lunchbox but others kids do, so no cartoon lunch boxes.  Just go along with it, it won't kill your kid not to have candy for lunch.  If you get this upset this early in the year because of this small thing, you are in for a long hard year. [/quote]

ITA 100%!!!!  Although I think a lot of this stems from the "you cannot tell me how to raise my child" mentality.

We had a school wide parent meeting witht the adminstrators last year. One of the counselors said something that stuck with me.  Parents (mostly new parents) were complaining about a longstanding prohibition on backpacks with wheels.  The counselor said "This is a private school and you are choosing to have your kids attend.  This school is a community and when you chose to come here, you agree to the customs, values and rules of the school community - like them or not. We have a waiting list a mile long so you have to decide what is best for your child."

It was harsh and borderline obnoxious...but it did hit home on a few points.  First, this is a choice.  Nobody is forcing you to send your kids to THIS school.  Second, many people are willing to pay for the rules and structure and lot of us are willing to live with some stupid rules to have our kids in that environment. Third, is this really an issue you want to fight about?  [/quote]

Well, when you are making the choice what you're told is that the school has a progressive approach to education, a commitment to diversity, small class sizes, experienced teachers, etc.  T[b]he no-wheeled-backpacks, no ziploc bags, no junk food, can't walk your kids onto campus or park legally in the neighborhood type rules get rolled out later -- after you've signed the contract.  [/b]They aren't part of the deal, so to speak.  And these so-called communal norms aren't communally generated -- they're imposed top down.  Basically, it's a my way or the highway response premised on scarcity and the power it conveys.  And, usually, it's all talk and no enforcement.  Not a pretty picture.  [/quote]

This is true.  We did not get our student handbook until DC was enrolled in the school.[/quote]

Fair points!  But I guess the schools figure that folks would not make decisions based on these rules....if they say that are in the best interest of the students. I am not sure that any of us would turn down an otherwise worthy school because DC could not bring certain snacks.  Thus, our only recourse is to gripe about them.  [/quote]

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