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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I left my FT, WOH job after DC was born. I actually went back for a while after maternity leave, but our nanny share fell apart, we couldn't find a daycare that was close to our house or either of our jobs, and my job had been a nightmare since I'd returned (I was pumping milk in a supply closet, my boss was flipping out if I asked to work a slightly adjusted schedule so I could be home in time to relieve the nanny, etc.). So it wasn't exactly my choice to SAH but everything got much, much easier when I did.

Now DC is starting school soon (well, whenever school is in-person again), and I am already lining up work. I've learned from my last job and will only take a job that allows me flexibility. I started a part time, freelance, WFH position earlier this year to test the waters. It's been great, and I've already started talking about stepping up my hours when DC is in school. My goal is to work about 25-30 hours a week, giving me some extra time during the week to be with DC and to also just have some time to myself. Plus, my income will help us afford activities and summer camp for DC, which is good for DC and also good for me because again, more time.

I loved SAH with DC, even though it wasn't planned. I would never get that time back and while I very much respect all WOH parents, I'm personally glad I didn't spend those years in a job I didn't like very much while DC was in a childcare situation that also wasn't great. But wow do I look forward to having more independence and alone time, and to making more money and spending more time talking to adults about what DC calls "grown up things." I miss grown up things.[/quote]

My exact same situation.  Need to start off with that flexible job and build your way up.  My 8th & 10th graders are fairly self-regulating and did really well on SHSATs.  It is doubtful they could have tested into the specialized NYC high schools if I outsourced the parenting.  
If I did work, I'd probably be paying for private school tuition because they wouldn't have been able to test into the NYC G&T programs.  And my job doesn't pay enough for 2 private school tuitions.[/quote]

I took the specialized exam years ago and graduated from Bronx Science. The whole point of the exam was to identify talented and gifted students, not to study for the exam. I came from a low income immigrant family, the majority of my classmates and friends at Stuyvesant and Tech came from similar backgrounds. None of us studied for that exam, we certainly couldn’t afford extra tutors and none of our parents were around to school us. If your kids truly belonged in the specialized schools, they wouldn’t have needed your help to get there.  [/quote]

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