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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In my experience it varies by age of the guy and also how much he is making. Don't hold me to the numbers strictly, but to generalize, a guy making 70k doesn't really care if the woman makes 40k and may be intimidated by someone making significantly more than him. The guy making 700k doesn't really care if the woman doesn't make much because they make enough where her income doesn't matter. The guys who make +/- 125k-300k care the most. This is prime dual income territory where your lifestyle is going to look a lot different if both people are working and making in that range vs. one medium income earner and one low. I've observed that the younger the guy, the more likely they are to care. Partially for the pure money alone, but they seem to be put off by women who don't attempt to build a career in their 20s who want to be supported. They seem to like the "power couple" ideal more than being valued primarily as breadwinners. [/quote]
 
+1 I have noticed this as well, going back as far as 10 years ago when I was dating.

Even if they are not that calculating about it, [b]men in the 125k-300k range want to first date and have fun before marriage, and if the woman they are dating is broke and struggling that may very well annoy him and turn him off - she can’t keep up with his striver lifestyle and he just met her so he doesn’t want to pay for everything like their first trip away together. [/b]

As a woman I didn’t fine men like this attractive at all, but they were the majority so I had to deal with it. I ultimately did find a more traditional minded man who makes in that range and he doesn’t care what I make but if I want a certain lifestyle I have to contribute a good bit, which I do. But I like knowing that he personally doesn’t care how much I earn as long as I adjust to the resulting income and sees himself as the “man” in the relationship. Too egalitarian is a sexual and emotional turn off, at least for me. [/quote]

Yes, they would like to have some really awesome DINK years as well, generally. They want to be off in nice hotels traveling the world, not jump into a provider role from the get-go. These guys in my office have flat been like, "I don't want no scrub!" talking about women they're dating. They want someone who meets them (around) halfway. A lot of those guys are around the 200k mark in their late twenties/early thirties with pretty high income potential down the line, so I suspect they do attract women who are looking at that and thinking they wouldn't be a bad wagon to hitch your ride to. By and large, that's a turnoff and they're dating their (roughly speaking) equals. [/quote]

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