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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a professional (think Finance/Law/CPA) and my salary varies but never less the mid-six figures. I am 45 and divorced with two teen sons (1 in college and 1 in high school).  I have a beach house and a nice primary home, my DCs went/go to private school. I don’t bring up my career or my beach house or the private school but I sense some hesitancy from some guys when they figure it out.  I know the answer is to find someone who doesn’t care but I wonder if  I am being ruled out in the early stages before they get to know me because of it.  Thanks [/quote]

Man here:  in general, men don’t view your career or income as a primary consideration when choosing who to date, it doesn’t affect that nearly as much as other things, including physical attractiveness, sexuality, and personality.  It is a canard that men are somehow “threatened” by this.  The major confusion, I think, is that many women expect it to be a positive and it isn’t, and they interpret that as it being a negative factor, which it really isn’t.

Several caveats: [b] if your career is sufficiently intense and demanding, some men will wonder if you actually have sufficient time and energy for a relationship on top of that.  [/b]Men are also aware that a great many women have a strong preference to date men with higher status than themselves, so may exercise some caution in light of that.  
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Last week I saw the profile of a smoking hot blonde who is a single mom and an MD and I thought do you [i]really[/i] have time to date?[/quote]

You mean does she have time to be at my beck and call and baby me?  You would be correct that she doesn't. Men say they want all in, what they mean is she does ALL the work, and sleeps with him with a smile on her face.[/quote]

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