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[quote=Anonymous]It seems to work for so many PPs, but it’s totally valid if you don’t like it OP. We all have different needs and I wouldn’t like it either. Sharing a marital bed is important to me, increases intimacy and connection for me, and I don’t like being alone when I sleep. That’s half the reason I got married, sleepover buddy for life!

Early on in our marriage my husband became cavalier with falling asleep on the couch and not coming to bed, deciding to sleep on the couch because he was too hot or uncomfortable or whatever. Every once in a while is nbd, everybody has off nights, but it became a slippery slope where eventually I was spending more nights alone than not. I basically said that absent medical issues or severe snoring that was a dealbreaker for me and we would need to problem solve any issues that cause us to sleep apart—wear earplugs, get a portable AC in the room, buy a bigger or better bed, get a sleep study, whatever. I drew a pretty hard line and would have considered divorce over it (no kids yet). It hasn’t been much of an issue since and hope it won’t be for a long time at least.

I don’t know what I would do in your shoes; I would be very unhappy too but this is a long entrenched practice for you guys after 8 years! Is there anything you can do to make it easier for him to sleep in bed with you? Is he open to trying? [/quote]

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