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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The commenters speculating on biracial kids are bothering me, because I have never seen a biracial kid who looked literally nothing like one of the bio parents. I'm sure they exist, like any other relatively rare kid who looks 0% like one of their bio parents, but they seem just as rare.

What I HAVE seen are people who so essentialize based on race that they think a kid with darker/lighter skin and a different hair texture, etc. looks "nothing like" their parent (usually white parent) when that's usually not the case at all.

I have seen so, so many biracial kids of color that look clearly [non-white race] but also really clearly share specific features of their white parent... and no one sees the resemblance. It's baffling. It reminds me of the "black twin/white twin" discourse.

I'm a white mom who grew up in a multiracial family and whose kid is a biracial POC-- but she looks like a [other race] version of me. Same with my cousins of color and other family members, to varying degrees.  [/quote]

This. Good grief. People love to say they are colorblind but literally cannot see past race to be able to tell that a child looks like a parent![/quote]

+1.  This happens with my DD all the time - people tell me she looks nothing like my DH and is a carbon copy of me, which is not true at all. We've now had a second DD and she has darker skin. Even though the girls share a ton of facial features and are a pretty even mix of both of us, I'm pretty sure we're going to hear how she looks exactly my DH and nothing like me. [/quote]

It's so frustrating-- I don't subscribe at all to BS colorblindness-- and it's partly because it only buries issues of race-- like the one where you so silo people based on your perception of race that you can't see things that are clearly in front of you. [/quote]

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