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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The commenters speculating on biracial kids are bothering me, because I have never seen a biracial kid who looked literally nothing like one of the bio parents. I'm sure they exist, like any other relatively rare kid who looks 0% like one of their bio parents, but they seem just as rare.

What I HAVE seen are people who so essentialize based on race that they think a kid with darker/lighter skin and a different hair texture, etc. looks "nothing like" their parent (usually white parent) when that's usually not the case at all.

I have seen so, so many biracial kids of color that look clearly [non-white race] but also really clearly share specific features of their white parent... and no one sees the resemblance. It's baffling. It reminds me of the "black twin/white twin" discourse.

I'm a white mom who grew up in a multiracial family and whose kid is a biracial POC-- but she looks like a [other race] version of me. Same with my cousins of color and other family members, to varying degrees.  [/quote]

This. Good grief. People love to say they are colorblind but literally cannot see past race to be able to tell that a child looks like a parent![/quote]

+1.  This happens with my DD all the time - people tell me she looks nothing like my DH and is a carbon copy of me, which is not true at all. We've now had a second DD and she has darker skin. Even though the girls share a ton of facial features and are a pretty even mix of both of us, I'm pretty sure we're going to hear how she looks exactly my DH and nothing like me. [/quote]

This is really interesting and annoying. We are both white, by my husband is darker (middle eastern) and i'm blonde (eastern european). My son has my coloring yet everyone goes on about how much he looks like my husband. (He actually doesn't really look like either of us.) My younger daughter looks most like my son (so again, not that much like either of us), and everyone is now saying she looks like me. When you compare their baby pictures, they look almost identical. People really do an incredible amount of projecting... [/quote]

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