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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think she's just moved on to the exact same kind of "friendship" she had with you, with the other moms who were in your shoes before -- the ones whose kids are in class with hers. That was your relationship -- your kids were in class together. It's like leaving a job and finding out your job friends were really just colleagues after all.[/quote]

Exactly.  Some people look at friendship like an onion, or a solar system -- they have long-time friends at the core who they consider their 'real' friends, and then other people who are situational friends with varying degrees of closeness.  Many people who I consider my current 'friends' are situational, and I recognize that our relationship has a season and will change or disappear if they move from the neighborhood, change jobs, send their kids to a different school, etc.  I get that other people don't see things the same way, so I bet I have inadvertently hurt people with this world view and how it plays out when the situation changes, and in the future I will try to keep this in mind that it could be taken as personal although its really not.  I guess I thought this was different from ghosting, though, which I always took to mean dropping a person for no apparent or stated reason. Anyway, my point, OP, maybe it is not really personal to you but rather situational for her (the ghoster) and is not worth a lot of thought.  Making new friends is harder now bc there are fewer opportunities to meet in person, but you will eventually.

Some of these stories are pretty shocking, though -- the person who had a standing dinner and one week the other mom just didn't show up?  I can't see rationalizing this behavior as anything but unbelievably rude.[/quote]

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