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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]^ and most definitely by infidelity/affair

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/rediscovering-love/201709/how-infidelity-causes-post-traumatic-stress-disorder%3famp

And Ashley Madison affairs:

https://www.addorecovery.com/betrayal-trauma/the-other-side-of-infidelity
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Why was it so traumatic?  You didn't see it coming?  I assume most affairs aren't really that surprising, the couple bickers, they stop having sex, someone cheats.[/quote]

Read my post.  Yes our marriage was great.  We had sex 3-4 times per week and he he surprised me with special dinners, trips, etc.  We were still hot for each other 22 years later.  We have deep conversations and lots of fun—laugh a lot.  Both in great shape still.  COMPLETELY blindsided by his Ashley Madison old whore that wasn’t even attractive.  He is fighting for his life to keep me.  He had already cut it off when I found out, but it went on a long time.  Serious childhood issues/trauma in his past that I’m just learning the extent of.

I was in shock for over a month and the past 3 just going from rage to despair to devastation...and the mind movies —especially at night.  I’m an outgoing person with lots of friends and I haven’t left the house.  From what I read, it takes minimum 5 years to heal. [/quote]

Try to make yourself busy, go see people, do things. I was in the same ameba like mental state until a friend of mine suggested to sign up for coursera. I get a lot of positive mental stimulation just being on those online courses, learning new things. It distracts a lot from misery at home.  [/quote]

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