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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I think she told me instead of telling bio dad because I'm the one who initiates contact. I text and call just about every day and even am planning to move to their city to have a closer relationship. She says she would be more understanding if I were a kid but I'm in my mid-30s and should be mindful of boundaries such as not assuming that I can stay at their place for a month just because I'm his bio daughter. She hints that I am the one who has been driving this relationship and that neither of them have an obligation towards me. That is what I am sad about. [/quote]

I am sorry. It sounds like to me that you are really missing/grieving the Dad who raised you.

I think your contact with your biodad is too much (e.g. calling too often, staying too long).

You two have had virtually no relationship your whole life. Don't exaggerate the power of the genetic connection. He sounds like less of a prize that your stepdad...so you won the lottery :-)

Having said that, this is something you need to work out with him (not her). Ask to speak to him alone. I would be  honest about what has transpired. Hear him out.

And consider therapy to work through the many painful emotions this is bringing up for you.

Good luck. [/quote]

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