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[quote=Anonymous]Sorry, messed up the quoting.  Fixing.

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What does your husband say?[/quote]

Nothing. He’s just happy that his son wants to maintain this family tradition but is disinterested in my son’s future. My son’s bio dad isn’t in the picture and he has no living grandparents. The only grandparents he knows are DH’s parents and they are nice to him but it’s obvious they love their own grandson while taking a polite interest in my son. What hurts is that I cooked, cleaned, tutored and took care of both kids for many years but there’s no acknowledgement for my role in their grandson’s success and no acknowledgement for my son either.[/quote]

Is he actually disinterested in your son's future?  Or does he not see the problem with unequal treatment of the boys from his parents?  Those are two separate things.  I could understand if he did not see a problem with the unequal treatment of the boys and would accept the financial assistance from his parents for his son, but then turn around be interested in giving your son an equal chance by paying for your son's education out of your own household finances.  This is personally how I would handle it.  As others have pointed out, the financial help from your in-laws mean that any money that you have set aside for both boys college education can now be applied to your son, so it is still a benefit for your blended family, just unbalanced by the source.  You can still make it equal out of your personal finances.[/quote]

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