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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]These horrible scenarios are  not the ones my large adoption network of families encounter. And yes, we are thoroughly vetted, unlike parents  who carry a child directly home from a hospital to a god-knows-what situation.

If any potential adoptive  parent has even considered that their adopted child is any less/different/2nd best/whatever to a biological child, they should not be adopting children.

No child should feel like a "consolation prize" -- and that is on the responsibility of the parent.  It is not up to any adopted child to "prove" they are as desirable as a natural-born one.

My 2 born-in-Asia daughters KNOW they were my first choice .  I never even considered pregnancy.

I know a woman who tried pregnancy, surrogacy, donor egg, -- well, everything -- before "resorting" to adoption.  I hope to god her gorgeous smart now-6-year old daughter never finds out the mom did everything possible not to "have to" adopt.  Some "parents" are just better not being parents.
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I hear what you’re saying and 100% agree with the premise that adoptees are not second class citizens, but even you use language that undermines your argument- “natural-born” is a phrase many adoptees find offensive, as an FYI.

I do have to also say that while an adopted child is not different than a bio child, the parenting IS different.  Adopted children come with a layer of complexity that bio children don’t have and parenting had best reflect that, especially when the adoption was an international or transracial one.

I am an Asian adoptee who has adopted an Asian child and also has a bio ch

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I very purposefully used "biological" as well as "natural" to see which one posters  would pick on.  DCUMers are so predictable.

And no, my parenting is no way different had I birthed my daughters.  As my daughters tend to say, "Stop making such a big deal about adoption. It's the parents  who are the problem."[/quote]

Both are pretty offensive.  Once a child is adopted it doesn't matter how they join your family as they are your child.  My parenting is different as there are so many differences in our family and our child's life that are not typical in another family.   [/quote]

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