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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]These horrible scenarios are  not the ones my large adoption network of families encounter. And yes, we are thoroughly vetted, unlike parents  who carry a child directly home from a hospital to a god-knows-what situation.

If any potential adoptive  parent has even considered that their adopted child is any less/different/2nd best/whatever to a biological child, they should not be adopting children.

No child should feel like a "consolation prize" -- and that is on the responsibility of the parent.  It is not up to any adopted child to "prove" they are as desirable as a natural-born one.

My 2 born-in-Asia daughters KNOW they were my first choice .  I never even considered pregnancy.

I know a woman who tried pregnancy, surrogacy, donor egg, -- well, everything -- before "resorting" to adoption.  I hope to god her gorgeous smart now-6-year old daughter never finds out the mom did everything possible not to "have to" adopt.  Some "parents" are just better not being parents.
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I hear what you’re saying and 100% agree with the premise that adoptees are not second class citizens, but even you use language that undermines your argument- “natural-born” is a phrase many adoptees find offensive, as an FYI.

I do have to also say that while an adopted child is not different than a bio child, the parenting IS different.  Adopted children come with a layer of complexity that bio children don’t have and parenting had best reflect that, especially when the adoption was an international or transracial one.

I am an Asian adoptee who has adopted an Asian child and also has a bio ch

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I very purposefully used "biological" as well as "natural" to see which one posters  would pick on.  DCUMers are so predictable.

And no, my parenting is no way different had I birthed my daughters.  As my daughters tend to say, "Stop making such a big deal about adoption. It's the parents  who are the problem."[/quote]

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