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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op, I think you need to reread your post and think about it from your kids perspective.

1.  Your kid will lie to you about eating food other places.  If you're lucky they won't develop an eating disorder (I did)
2.  Your kids aren't going to remember your homemade hummus.  They are going to remember that you chose making hummus over spending time with them 
3.  Your kids are going to walk on eggshells around you.  Can I touch this or do this?  Or will mom tell at me
4.  Your kids are never going to be able to come to you about anything.  They are going to be too scared.  DD hates gymnastics but keeps doing it because she is afraid to tell you she actually wants to try something else, despite the fact that you think you tailored gymnastics perfectly to her personality.

So think about things.from their perspective.  Because I guarantee you they will have a happier and healthier childhood if they have a mom they can be open with and spend time with and not be afraid of.  Even if that means store bought hummus.   So whenever you start to control a situation, think "is this really what's best for my kid?" [/quote]

This.  I was [still am] this child.  I am an excellent liar, I overeat now because my food choices and intake were limited as a child, I hate cleaning because my mom had us on a very strict regimen for cleaning the house every day, and I was (and probably still am a little bit) scared of doing anything that will upset my mother.  I also take offense to anything she says because I assume she is always criticizing me or my choices.  I hate visiting my parents because I always am worried I'm doing something wrong.

It is also REALLY hard being a parent because my parents' way is the only way I know, and that's not the kind of parent I want to be.[/quote]

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