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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP: Oh dear.

I'm 38 years old and have two children. I've been married for nearly all of my adult life. My college friends' parents are constantly using me to guilt them into getting married and having children.

It's been a brutal road. I don't regret my choices, but watching me struggle has really influenced my friends' choices to wait and take it slower. I am very fortunate in many ways, and my friends know what I have faced better than anyone. I don't feel superior (!) for choosing differently, and I don't envy them. I wish their parents would respect their choices and not use my life, which they don't know well, to suit their agenda.

If you entertain these thoughts on a forum, then I bet your children have heard them and have learned to keep their struggles and fears from you.

For the record, my parents are terribly disappointed in me, and I look like I have the perfect life. It's likely that you will never be happy with your children's choices. As a mother myself, it amazes me that anyone can entertain these thoughts about their adult children. Your children must be doing pretty well for you to be so privileged as to have these feelings. No one is entitled to grandchildren.[/quote]

What have you gone through that would be such a cautionary tale? Why is having a family such a dilemma?[/quote]

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