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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ugh OP ugh. This is dripping with mean girl passive aggressive. So there are a dozen moms in the neighborhood with same aged kids and they all hang out, with the exception of the one mom who is only sometimes/rarely invited, and there is bragging on social media, and the odd mom out is asking about it, and you feel sorry for YOURSELF because she is reaching out to you. Get over yourself sheesh. What a bratty group of neighbors. PS i guarantee this group will blow up in your face.[/quote]

+1. OP this woman is reaching out to you because she thinks of you as Her friend. You obviously don’t give a crap about her or you would have stuck up for her. Be honest with her and yourself. [/quote]

You are also angry that she was able to do something you have not and have suffered for it, so why shouldn’t she right? You are upset because she was able to express her feelings and ask directly for a resolution. Instead of simmering with the feelings, putting on a fake smile when getting together and then just feeling less than inwardly. How dare she actually be proactive an admit she has feelings and then ask someone to do something to help her?

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OP didn’t say this person was her friend. She said they were friendly. I’m friendly with lots of random people... that doesn’t mean I owe them anything, socially or otherwise. Demanding invites and getting angry with the sole friendly face in the group is just weird and probably part of the reason she isn’t being included.

And by the way, I’m usually the mom that doesn’t get included- and somehow I manage not to latch on and get angry at the other mothers for not helping me with my social issues. I have a happy extroverted child that gets lots of play date invites, but the invites never extend to when it’s group outings of moms with kids.  Know whose problem that is? Mine. What is there to be honest about? It’s crystal clear. I’m embarrassed on behalf of that other mom who is basically trying to guilt her way into this group. [/quote]

SHE IS TRYING TO BE FRIENDS. That's how this works. Geez. She's not "guild tripping", she's upset that the Queen Bee mommy group in her neighborhood can't be bothered to include one additional family. And she's right.

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