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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]^ But yiu are still a liar and a cheater, so there’s that.[/quote]

Yeah. She’ll have to own that one day.  I’m sure her Ex was thrilled to find out about the affair.

Maybe if more if these SAHMs got a job they wouldn’t have affairs.  Too much time on their hands and boredom.  It’s the ultimate back stab to cheat on somebody paying for your existence.[/quote]

I’m the PP you’re referring to.

In a way I agree with you. I didn’t want to be a SAHM, but we had a lot of problems in our marriage and it was easier. I don’t want to get into the details, but my xH wasn’t supportive of my career because it interfered with his. It didn’t have anything to do with too much time on my hands. I have way more extra time now.

I do know that an affair was the wrong choice, but it was so hard not to give in after years of being denied love and affection. I totally understand why there are men here who think no sex means they’re entitled to an affair. I don’t think it’s the right choice - the right choice is of course to first work on your marriage and then divorce if it can’t be fixed. But touch and affection are basic human needs, so when someone does come along offering them, it’s like someone offering you a cheeseburger after you haven’t eaten in a week. I don’t fault anyone, male or female, for being human.

I did years of therapy and figured out the ultimate reason is that I struggled to draw boundaries, ask for my needs to be met, and could never end unhealthy relationships because I felt bad about it. Cheating was my way of getting my needs met while avoiding conflict. Now I know how develop a healthy relationship and how to end things when it’s unhealthy, so cheating isn’t an issue anymore. [/quote]

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